We’ve probably all taken tons of personality assessments over the years, oftentimes for our employers, who might not even use the information.
But one easy and interesting assessment recently came to my attention: the Enneagram.
Apparently, I was way behind the curve on this one, because all of my adult children and their significant others had their results long before I asked them if they’d heard of it. In fact, it was my daughter who first mentioned it to me.
My first thought was, “Yeah, yeah, I’ve taken a dozen of these over the years, and they are not that groundbreaking.”
Except that, for me, this one was groundbreaking.
According to the Enneagram Institute website, “At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.”
As someone who thrives on introspection, objectivity is gold! I can really get wrapped around my own brain, and sometimes it’s hard to get out.
While I cannot endorse any particular paid resources, therapy, or books on the Enneagram, I can tell you there are a lot of free resources and information available online through various groups, and many books and resources available on the topic from a variety of perspectives (spiritual, marriage, workplace, etc). Though its use is widespread, there is also some criticism of the Enneagram, so do your research and stay balanced.
My particular experience is this: Some weeks ago, I took a quick, free assessment online and was floored by the results. In fact, it was so accurate that I burst into tears. Not with relief, mind you. I didn’t enjoy seeing myself so clearly. But I couldn’t deny the results.
So, what do I find most interesting and worth sharing about the Enneagram?
- The Enneagram is designed to expose your core fears and motivations and helps put them in perspective. The good news is that in many cases, your fears and emotions are lying to you.
- It also helps you to identify how you operate, and why that might bring you into conflict with your loved ones, colleagues, or anyone you interact with regularly.
- It can help you release some faulty core beliefs in the context of your relationships, as it did me.
- It could help you develop more patience and understanding toward those in your close inner circle.
- The Enneagram could go a long way toward explaining why you find yourself where you are now, in this moment, on your journey of fine-tuning or re-tuning your life. And what healthy next steps you can take.
I’m at the beginning of my exploration into the Enneagram and my place on the chart. I find it interesting and worthwhile, though I can’t claim to be a devotee quite yet.
I love sharing resources and tools via OFF and Running, and this is simply one of them. I’d love to hear your thoughts (and your number!) if you want to share.